10 Jan Kelly Clarkson is under fire for saying she isn't against spanking her kids. Last week, the "Love So Soft" singer relayed her perspective to a Rochester-based radio station, “I'm not above a spanking, which people aren't necessarily into. “ And I don't mean like hitting her hard, I just mean a spanking.”. Giving your child a choice is an effective alternative to spanking. If she is playing with her food at the table ask, Would you like to stop playing with your food or would you like to leave the table?” If the child continues to play with her food, you use kind but firm action by helping her down from the table. Then tell her that she . One twenty-eight-year-old mother felt guilty over her daughter's cowering and fear: One time when she was about four years old, I had spanked her maybe a week before, and she had done something that made me really angry and I wanted to spank her and she just cowered away, and it made me feel like I was an abusive.